Maryland Family Law

How do you get through a divorce?

Are you looking for some tips from "the other side" of divorce? I enjoyed this article on Slate.com about getting through divorce with children. It is very thoughtful, with a touch of humor, and is a great reminder that taking the high road and focusing on your kids is all for the best. She also deals with the inevitable feelings of failure and loss, even when you know the divorce is the right thing for your. It is also worth noting, that while the author Lara Bazelon is an attorney herself, she recommends reaching agreements and staying out of court. 

Are you interested in resolving your family law matter without court, judges, witnesses and (gasp!) depositions? There ARE options, such as mediation, collaborative law and plain old negotiation. An experienced attorney can be your guide to separating in a cost-effective and dignified manner.  

What are your priorities in divorce?

Negotiating a divorce and dividing assets gives the spouses a lot of freedom in fashioning an agreement that works for both of them. For example, in the case of dispute of jointly owned real property, the court may only be able to order a sale. Under certain circumstances, a party may be able to get the house transferred in title or use and possession, but these are relatively few options. Working out an agreement with you spouse can greatly open up your options. 

I have seen people make regrettable decisions by focusing too strongly on "keeping the house." Real estate can be a volatile asset, with high upkeep costs. You may love your house, but it may be too much for you when you're single in terms of affordability and keeping up with the maintenance. I have seen people waive significant other assets in favor of keeping the house, and later ending up cash strapped with only a large illiquid asset. Keep an open mind, and talk with a financial advisor and your attorney to create a financially secure future.