Are you looking for some tips from "the other side" of divorce? I enjoyed this article on Slate.com about getting through divorce with children. It is very thoughtful, with a touch of humor, and is a great reminder that taking the high road and focusing on your kids is all for the best. She also deals with the inevitable feelings of failure and loss, even when you know the divorce is the right thing for your. It is also worth noting, that while the author Lara Bazelon is an attorney herself, she recommends reaching agreements and staying out of court.
Are you interested in resolving your family law matter without court, judges, witnesses and (gasp!) depositions? There ARE options, such as mediation, collaborative law and plain old negotiation. An experienced attorney can be your guide to separating in a cost-effective and dignified manner.