I think most of my clients would agree, discovery is the most difficult, time-consuming and aggravating part of divorce litigation. Discovery, simply put, is the process of gathering information about the other party's case and also sharing information about your own. There are several tools in this toolbox: interrogatories (questions to the other party), requests for documents or other tangible items, requests for admission, depositions, and requests for physical/mental examination. If one party has been pro se (representing him or herself), this is the point when it may be time to get an attorney's help. And if you do have an attorney, know that arguing and avoiding the discovery will only make it more painful, financially and emotionally.
The rules regarding discovery can be complicated, even for us attorneys. Even if you learn the Maryland Rules about discovery, there are customs and rules of thumb that can really be gleaned only through experience. Clients often ask me, do I really have to produce 5 years worth of bank statements (or answer whether I've had sexual relations with someone else). The answer is, it depends....you need an attorney well-versed in family law to help you figure that out.
What happens if you ignore discovery requests from the other side? You could face having to pay the other party's attorney's fees, delay in your case, your evidence not being admitted for the judge to consider, or even having your case dismissed. So there actually are worse things than having to answer discovery.