Today, I read this article about former N.J. governor James McGreevey and his wife in divorce court. You may recall that Mr. McGreevey resigned from office claiming he was being blackmailed by his gay lover. Both he and his wife have written tell-all books, and the pleadings in their case are full of recriminations. In their case, they were able to come to an agreement on custody and visitation for their child, but the judge admonished both to use their common sense in making decisions about their child. They will also be using a parent coordinator. A parent coordinator, often a mental health professional, can help parents to work through conflict and to make decisions together for their child. The person can work as a mediator, and often teaches the parents tips and strategies for working together. It can be truly helpful for parents who are hurt and angry with each other to work together for the best interests of their child.